I am doing a week-long challenge of being intentional about my decisions. You may have heard of the book “A Year Of Yes”, well I am doing a week of no. I read the book, and felt I needed to be more intentional when making decisions. I have a tendency to say yes to people, and I want to be more intentional. Not all my answers will be no, I just want my yes to be a “Heck, Yes!” And my no to be No!
I am one of those people who really want everyone to be happy. I don’t like saying no to people because I feel like I am letting them down. However, I can’t say yes to everyone all of the time. Just in one evening at home I have to balance saying yes to my daughter, husband, the cats, and the dog. You add in work, my blog, extended family, and friends and even the best juggler in the world can’t juggle all of those yeses! In order to deal with things, without being an expert in juggling, you have to say no to the less important things, and say yes to the priorities.
I remember when Cassidy was still a newborn, I broke down in tears because I felt like I was letting our cat down. Our female cat likes to sit in my lap and be petted, and Cassidy was spending all her time in my lap. So, I felt like a horrible cat mom. Pets are important to me, and I don’t want to be a bad pet mom. However, at that time holding my newborn daughter was more important than petting my cat. You have to chose sometimes between one important thing or the other. While being a responsible and caring pet owner is important to me, so is being a good mom. Sometimes the decisions are hard.
Being Intentional Day 1
My first Day of No is Memorial Day, thanks to all who served and especially to those who laid down their lives!
I woke up around 7:00 when the animals woke up! I said my first no and rolled over and went back to sleep. Sleep is one of those things I have been lacking in lately, well more like the last three and half years. I have been trying to prioritize sleep. I have read a lot about moms who get up at the butt crack of dawn to get stuff done before their kids get up, but at least for right now, sleep is a priority for me. At about 8:00 the dog really needed to go out so I did finally get up, not having to clean the floor outranks sleep.
I checked my email, like I do about 10 times a day, and had several offers for blog coaching, courses, and other blog related stuff. I said no to all of those because I have a Mastermind Group and a coach. I also have about 10 blog courses I haven’t finished. Unless it is something I really need to grow my blog, I am going to say no! I am really committed to this blog and I want to grow it and share my content, but adding in about a million little to-dos is not going to help me. I want this blog to get out there and help moms who feel overwhelmed, however doing seven courses in social media isn’t going to help get my voice out there, I will just be doing seven courses and not writing content to put on social media.
I also had a bunch of free books in my e-mail. I joined a bunch of author’s email lists, and they send me free books, or links to their giveaways. There can never be too many books! Reading is really important to me. It is a priority and it is a self-care thing for me. Reading helps me de-stress and I have been stressed for a long time. Even though I really try to remind myself that self-care is not selfish, I do feel that self-care can come off as selfish sometimes. However, I also know that a grouchy, stressed Candace is not good for anyone! I am guessing my family would rather me spend an hour reading and decompressing than doing whatever it is they might have wanted me to do in the first place.
Highlights for today:
- You have to prioritize things in your life so you don’t end up doing a million pointless things and missing out on the one big thing;
- When you are trying to accomplish a goal (like having a popular blog), you must decide what things are a priority and what things are just fluff;
- Even though I am a busy working mom, self-care is a priority. I must have some time to do what I want or else I am grouchy and resentful.
Hopefully this made you think about all the decisions you make in a day. Each thing we do adds up, and being more intentional helps you to mold your life into shape you want it to be!