Ok Elsa, how do I let it go?
Just Let it go! Really, I wish that I had the magic answer, that I could use a magic want and get rid of it all. I really don’t. I have some major issues with letting things go. I am one of those people that likes to plan, be prepared, and meet expectations. Letting people down, or getting in trouble is something I readily avoid.
I don’t have a coronation coming up in which I can have a complete meltdown and run off into the mountains (Watch frozen if you have no idea what I’m talking about). There have been times in my life where I have had meltdowns, but no major life altering ones.
Without a coronation, I must just take baby steps here and there. Stress, worry, and guilt are some things I come by honestly from some of my relatives. I don’t want to get into a nature vs. nurture comment in here, I don’t know if its genetics or something I just picked up, or even a combination of the two.
Building the castle
In continuing with my Frozen metaphor-after the coronation you build your ice castle. Several tools are used to build your castle.
Meditation (My 5 favorite meditation podcasts) journaling, reading, crafting, yoga, NKOTB, movies, and tv are all things I have used to help me learn to let go of stress, worry, and guilt. My gurus are also my go to for self-improvement and self-care. All these things together help me make progress, slowly but surely.
Elsa makes an ice monster to guard her castle. This unfortunately ends up being a bad idea. The thought of becoming a hermit in my own castle away from everyone sounds great, however, it really isn’t a good idea. Most of us can’t manage to hide away from the entire world, even if it might sound good.
An act of love
In the end, an act of love is what saves Elsa’s sister Anna from freezing. Like I said, I have used many things to go step by step to let go of worry, guilt, and stress. Learning to love yourself, including your imperfections, helps you to let it go. I have also found that having more self-love and self-care in turn allows me to have more love to give others.
Happily, Ever After
All fairy tales end in happily ever after, and I would like to say that I have it all figured out. Unfortunately, I don’t. Teeny tiny little baby steps, sometimes followed by huge steps back is how it seems to go for me.